As you prepare for your date, there are a few final things you can do that ensure the evening is more enjoyable for everyone. First, keep in mind that most dates aren't about where you go, but are more about what you do during the date.
Whether this is your first date or fiftieth, these 5 dating tips ensure you have a great evening out with your date no matter what you do or what else happens. Taking these tips into consideration and following them will allow you to further cultivate that perfect dating experience by tapping into the mind and body of your date.
Put Your Phone Away
We get it, you're busy. However, when you're on a date with someone you have agreed to give them your time. Giving someone your time is no small thing and should never be wasted. If date night is what you are doing Friday night, treat it like a priority and act accordingly; start by putting the phone away.
When we say put the phone away we aren’t suggesting you power down. Rather put it in your pocket, bag, or leave it on the table, but don’t touch it. Of course, if there is an emergency, answer your phone. However, a new Instagram post, a funny comment in your friends’ group message, or a Twitter update can be ignored for an hour or three.
Finally, remember why you went out on this date. If you really want to get to know your date, you can make it clear you're interested in them without ever vocalizing it through body language.
Making eye contact is an easy way to do this. Taking out your phone also gives off its own message and it’s: “I’m not interested. I’d rather be anywhere else. Even if you know that's not the case, don’t give your date a reason to wonder, give them your undivided time.
Speaking of time, why waste someone else's time if you aren’t interested in actually getting to know and communicating with your date.
Pay Attention to Your Conversations
The key to a great date is simply being attentive to your date. A way to ensure that your second date is as great as the first is to recall something from your last date together.
Throughout the date, make a point to remember three specific things about your date. Maybe it's a food they can’t stand or really like. Maybe it's their ideal vacation spot, a big goal they have or something about their family. Hang on to every word and use that to fuel your future conversations. This can help you plan for the next time you hang out and shows your listening as well as interested in what your date has to say.
Be Mindful of Body Language
Pay attention to your body language and your dates throughout the outing. Body language isn’t an exact science, but it is a large part of the way we communicate whether we know it or not.
When it comes to your body language (we have already touched on this, but why not mention it again) you should be making eye contact as your date speaks. This shows that you are paying attention and helps breed intimacy. You should also try to face your date as you talk to one another. Your entire body should say I want to get to know more of you.
Their body language could provide us with social cues that may help us understand how your date is feeling and thinking. Are their arms crossed? Are they making eye contact? Where is their body facing? By itself, the way their body moves or is positioned could mean nothing. However, it could also be their mind subsciously communicating with you. Are you talking about something that could be considered a sensitive topic? Has their body language changed? If you have never thought to look at someone's body language before, try next time you are out even before the date and see what you notice.
No matter the stage of the relationship, there is always more we can learn about the person we are with. Dates are a great way to further develop that relationship through communication. When it comes to talking, there will likely be one person on the date who is more chatty. If you tend to be the chattier person, be mindful of your date getting a chance to speak too.
Do not make the conversation all about you. Talk about your dreams and desires, but talk about things bigger than yourself as well. What’s happening in the world around you that resonates with you? You should also avoid talking about other people in your life at least early on especially if it's negative.
Sometimes chatty people can tend to be oversharers. Oversharing is telling someone too much about yourself too fast. What you feel comfortable talking about or sharing may make your date uncomfortable if the relationship is new.
Finally, when it comes to communicating, try parrotting your date on your next outing together. Parrot or mimic your date’s tone of voice and rate of speed. This is a way to increase synergy in the relationship.
The best and the most important piece of advice we can share with you is to be confident. Exude confidence in the way you speak, interact and move throughout your date night. This can be easier said than done, but it can also be faked. Fake it till you make it. Confidence is the biggest and most secretive attractive quality we can offer.
Be secure in who you are, why you are out with this person and what you want from this experience and everything else will fall into place.
Remember, the perfect date night is not about where you go or what you do, but more about how you do it. Use these tips to have a more fulfilling night out with someone you’d love to get to know or your old flame to increase your level of intimacy and have the perfect night out together.